First, I want to thank the news blog http://www.lavenderliberal.com/
and Nigel Kelly of http://www.quentincrisp.info/
for linking this blog to their sites.
More on those superb sites will be posted at a future time.
From our first meeting in Aug 1999, until he met Kathryn Rock
sometime in 2001, Beecher Goodwin and I were quite happy with each other.
Soon after he met Kathryn, his headaches began.
As time passed his headaches grew worse and more frequent.
By 2004, they were posing a serious health risk.
The worse his headaches got, the worse our relationship got.
We were always angry at each other, and didn't know why.
We were uncomfortable around each other, and didn't understand what was causing that either.
By 2004, we could barely have a conversation.
People close to us spoke of the invisible wall that had come up
between us.
When Beecher finally left, in Feb. 2005, the headaches were so severe that they sometimes left him bedridden.
He needed to leave, he said, so that the headaches would stop.
After he left our apartment in San Francisco, he went to live with his sister in Texas.
The headaches grew worse.
Six months later, he moved to Surprise Arizona to live with Kathryn Rock and her new husband, Stephen Polich.
The headaches stopped that same day and never returned.
He moved in with Kathryn and Stephen because "Kathryn needs me" (Beecher's actual words)
This was the same Kathryn Rock who admitted to people that she was deliberately instigating trouble between Beecher and I.
The same Kathryn Rock who said she was going to get us out of our lives "no matter what I have to do."
Did Kathryn cause these headaches?
You do the math.
The headaches began shortly after Beecher met Kathryn.
They didn't stop until Kathryn got what she wanted.
In March 2005, and again in April 2008, I spoke to Mrs. Luttrell, Kathryn Rock's former Mother in Law.
At both times, Mrs. Luttrell told me that she personally witnessed Kathryn Rock using brainwashing techniques on Beecher Goodwin.
Kathryn hurt Beecher on purpose so she could "rescue" him from me.
I'm stunned not only at what Kathryn did, but that Beecher's own siblings, Harold Goodwin and Laura Goodwin Mooring, both Fundamentalist Christians, support Kathryn's actions.
In the churches that Harold and Laura go to, it's clearly OK to hurt gay people.
Beecher has a cousin, Donna Cifaldi. Donna likes to boast about her "sterling reputation"
and claims to not be homophobic,
When I last spoke to Donna, she said she knew that Kathryn was causing these problems deliberately.
Great champion of gay rights that she is, Donna gave me her personal assurance that she would do nothing about it.
We should all have relatives like Laura, Harold and Donna.
I wonder what God thinks of their behavior?
As I continue to tell this story within the LGBT community, the words, "Not interested, don't care, get over it" continues to be the most common response.
When are we going to learn that responses such as these only serves to "empower" hatemongers like Kathryn Rock?
When are we going to learn that we're hurting ourselves and each other?
Imagine what we could accomplish if we learned how to listen to each other......
if we learned how to care.....
Because if you think that Beecher & I are an isolated case, you're sadly mistaken.
Please visit http://www.truthwinsout.org/
Truth Wins Out is Wayne Besen's important site that documents the many evil things that the Right does to destroy gay relationships
and to stop people from living gay lives.
Besen tells me that he has many, many cases just like Beecher's on file.
Brainwashing is a standard procedure.
Isn't it time for the LGBT community to put a stop to these kinds of abuses for all time?
David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
June 2008
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Hate breeds hate. Your efforts to keep others from having to go through the torment you've been through because of the hate in the hearts of those poor folk who must honestly believe they are doing God's bidding, is to be applauded.
Georgina Spelvin
i am truly disgusted by the actions of kathryn and shocked by the reaction by beechers relatives.
A bad situation made worse by the indifference of key "leaders" in the gay community,
"Pride" must always be earned....by positive action, not mere rhetoric....
I would NEVER respond with such a callous remark as "Get over it." How thoughtless. How unimaginably rude. Your story fills me with sorrow. My heart anguishes to read these things.
I'd also like to mention that the blog I write for, exgaywatch.com, keeps an eye on the ex-gay movement. We basically try to track every move they make. We're different from TWO in that we're simply a collective of writers, not an active non-profit. But i would encourage you to post your opinions there. I'm sure you would get many sympathetic listeners. I'm going to make this case known over there.
Emily K:
THANKS!
I checked Ex Gay Watch, but couldn't find an email link for you, so I'll have to thank you here & hope you see this.
I'd love it if my story got play at your site~~let's cross promote!
And I owe Wayne Besen big time~~his endorsement at Truth wins Out is a major
coup for me.
As God is my witness, I'll see this story make national news.
What Kathryn Rock did to Beecher & I will never happen to anyone again.
Erase Hate!
David Alex Nahmod
While I'm glad to see that your experience is getting out David and this issue is becoming a topic on the "front burner." I'm concerned that you used people's actual names. This could cause some reverse "discrimination" if you will and members of my family may soon be the victims of hateful tactics. It's not that they don't deserve the bad karma...it's more about "two wrongs don't make a right." And let's not forget that other innocent members of my family can inadvertently and negatively affected by things that may be done to those named in your story. There are children involved here David. I hope none of them get physically or emotionally harmed in this process
Regallily!
I'm delighted to see
you here.
And please note that I'm not using your real name even though I know it~~because you're a decent person who had nothing to do with all of this.
Your house~~and the home of your late Grandmother~~was one of the few places in his hometown where Beecher & I were accepted and welcomed.
Where I felt welcome.
I remember, about two years ago, when you tried to talk to Beecher.
His ex-wife, also a good person, did the same.
He flew into a rage with both of you.
Both of you backed away.
Those rages are being deliberately instigated.
And Beecher's own siblings don't care about him enough to put a stop to this.
You know about the 18 months of threats, taunts and abuse I put up with, all behind Beecher's back.
My crime?
Trying to forward his mail to him.
Did you know about the headaches I write of in this post?
There's much more still to be documented.
It's shocking how far Kathryn Rock has gone to get what she wants.
It's shocking to see members of the Goodwin family openly supporting this.
Because they don't want Beecher to be gay.
Or to be with a Jew like me.
I've heard these things from each of them.
Now, through Wayne Besen at Truth Wins Out, I hear that there are hundreds of other cases just like this one on file.
Enough.
It's time to hold the bastards accountable.
It's time to name names and present the paper trail they were so foolish to leave behind.
Check out my very first post: Why This Blog? to see what that paper trail is.
All the documentation is soon to be scanned and posted to this board.
The only way to stop these abuses is to hold the perpetrators publicly accountable.
RE: the children: Beecher and his brother have children who are now in their 20s.
I suspect that Harold's kids would support all of this.
Beecher's kids would not.
They would be horrified if they knew the truth~~and the truth has been kept from them by the family.
I don't know where Beecher's boys are these days.
Through the web, and through the interviews I'm now conducting with a reporter, the truth will reach them.
Now adults, they can handle it.
As for Kathryn Rock: I know for a fact that she's raising her children to behave the same way she does.
I know for a fact that she lies to her kids as much as she lies to Beecher.
This too, must stop.
As for physical harm, no one in the gay community would ever
do such a thing.
Rev. Fred Phelps, the most vile anti-gay hatemonger in American history, is listed in the phone book.
People have protested outside his home and church, but no one has tried to hurt his young grandchildren.
Kathryn's kids are safe from the gay community.
Those kids~~and the gay community~~need to be protected from Kathryn and others like her .
And now, Regallily, may I respectfully suggest that you again try to do what you almost did a few years ago:
step in and tell Beecher the truth.
Tell him his whole life is now a scam that was pulled on him to destroy our relationship.
Tell Kathryn Rock to her face what a liar and a sick hatemonger she is.
Tell her she has NO RIGHT to do these things.
Tell her this in front of Beecher.
Peace and love to you, Regallily.
I wish Beecher had more people in his life like you.
David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
June 2008
I would love to have another conversation regarding Beecher about this...but I have no way to reach him. The cell phone number I have doesn't work and I don't have his address. Taking a plan to Surprise is costly...so telling Kathy to her face what I think of what she's doing isn't feasible.
I believe one of his son's still works at Firestone and I can try to visit with him next weekend when I'm in CT for a wedding.
Just wanted to point out something...remember a few years ago when I wrote that paper on Marriage and I told you that through Loving v. Virginia, marriage is a fundamental right for all? We just passed the Loving v. Virginia 50th anniversary not too long ago. Slowly, we (and by we...I mean all those interested in basic, humane, fundamental civil rights) are chipping away at our society's proclivity to ban what they find uncomfortable. Cultural change happens in small (sometimes minuscule) steps. I'd love to see a blog at the progress of Gay Rights in America...if you have a website with verifiable documentation that I can link to, I'd love to explore it more.
It's ok to use my first name...Velma
Regallily, AKA Velma & I are now emailing privately~~she's good people!
I've sent her the gay rights info she requested.
David Alex Nahmod
SF CA
"Not interested, don't care, get over it"
Apathy, arrogance, and ignorance. There's just too much of that going around.
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